True Fulfilment, Is a Two Sided Partnership

There are so many people in the world who believe that in order to be happy, peaceful and in control, it is necessary to have success. They also believe that failure leads to sadness, disappointment, loss and lack of fulfilment.

In my career, I have come to learn something that some of you may already know and something that some of you have never realised. In order to achieve true fulfilment in our careers or journey through life, there are two very important pieces that allow this process to occur. These two pieces are both success and failure.

Let’s take a quick look at success first. Success is perceived to be more positive than negative. It is associated with pleasure, instead of pain and it’s what people strive to achieve.

Failure, on the other hand, is perceived to be more negative than positive. It is associated with pain, instead of pleasure and it’s what people want to avoid.

Why is that we only see success as positive and we only view failure as negatives? From what I know, everything that exists within the universe has two sides. All traits, actions, inactions and more. Nothing is just one sided. If that’s true, which I am certain of, success is not just positive and failure is not just negative. That must mean that there are two sides to each of these concepts.

Have you ever considered or wondered that there might be lots of challenges of being successful and that it may not be as easy or as glamorous as it appears? Have you ever considered or wondered that there might be lots of lessons or opportunities to be gained from experiencing failures in your life, and that it’s not as bad as it may seem?

So, I leave you with some questions to ask yourself, that may be able to balance your perceptions of success and failure, and will leave you with a sense of fulfilment instead of the one-sided happiness or sadness.

1. Let’s say that you believe success is the answer to happiness, what would be all the downsides of being successful? How would it be a disservice to you? How would it hold you back? What pressures would it place on you? Answer this at least 50 times to balance out your infatuations or illusions you’ve had about success being the answer to happiness.

2. You may also believe that failure is the ultimate nightmare but what would be all the benefits of failing and having to try again? What would you gain from failing? How would failing serve you and push you forward? How would failing alleviate the pressures you’re faced with? Answer this at least 50 times to balance out the nightmares you’ve had about failing and it leading to sadness or disappointment.

Leadership

Follow Your Souls Calling

Dr Greg Schreeuwer
December 29, 2012
clues, dreams, fulfilment, mission, potential, purpose, self-worth, solution, souls calling

I often get asked by people, and I’m paraphrasing, ‘What am I supposed to do with my life? Can you help me figure out what that is?’ I reply by saying that what you’re supposed to do with your life is what you love to do. It’s that simple. It’s never what other people want you to do. Usually, those same people look at me or hear me and wonder how can they do that? Some of them have families with children, some of them have debts to pay, some have other commitments and they see that answer as something that becomes incredibly overwhelming.

I’ve come to learn in my life, that every single human being on this planet has a calling and this calling or purpose is governed by their soul or their inner being. No matter how hard we try to avoid that directive, we can’t really stray from it because we’re intrinsically destined to fulfill it. It is something that we innately love to do. We spend time, energy and money to make it a reality in our lives. We are disciplined, reliable and focussed when it comes to applying ourselves towards it. Our thoughts and conversations are consumed by it. There is no part of our lives where we can escape it.

When I get asked this question and I give my response, that is the solution. That is the answer to the question on most people’s minds. If we took the time to look at what our lives actually demonstrate; not what we want them to demonstrate, but what they actually do demonstrate, then we’d uncover some incredible clues as to what’s most important to us. Something else that I find quite useful is to look back in time, usually in the earlier years of our lives, and remember those activities that we constantly engaged in. What did we do? What were our reasons for doing it? Why did we love it so much? More clues, more answers and more revelation.

As you may know by now, Be Who You Wanna Be International is focussed on empowering children to fulfil their potential. So, when it comes to empowering young children and, even, teenagers, it would be wise to observe what it is that they love doing. It would be a useful exercise to pay attention to the areas of their lives where they show the greatest degree of dedication. What I’ve come to discover, is that the fastest way to achieve anything you want in life is to follow your souls calling. The more you focus on what that is, once you give yourself the opportunity of seeing it, you will increase your level of fulfilment, self-worth and the possibilities for you to achieve what you want out of life.

Watch, observe, pay attention to and listen to what your kids are inspired by. You will learn more about them by doing so and it may actually open you up to your own inner visions, dreams and mission. They have what it takes to be the next Einstein, Jobs, Branson or Mandela. Create the space for them to do so, assist them to dedicate themselves to their souls calling and watch the magic happen.

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